



(Written: 10-13-08)
Last week, from Sunday night to the following Sunday morning I was living with a Muslim family in an area of Cairo. In short – I loved it :o)
My friend Tara and I were both placed with the same family, which was a pleasant surprise since most of the students were on their own and Tara is a great person to be with in such situations.
My family was made up of Bobba, Momma, (2 Older sons who are working in other regions), Nessma (23yrs old and our “English Speaking” contact), Bessma (15yrs old), Abdu (12 ½ yrs old), and Hela (10yrs old). An aspect that really facilitated how comfortable I felt there was how similar the family was in structure to my own! Mom, Dad, and 6 kids who parallel them in age – what a Blast!
Throughout the week there were so many cultural differences to work with, on both sides I’m sure, and the language barrier was definitely present. That said, I could not imagine a family in this situation being more understanding and willing to meet us more than half way. The language challenge became a game at which we cheered for extensive communication victories and at times just kind of shrugged and let the failure to verbal communicate pass us by. I definitely did learn more Arabic but more importantly I became more comfortable with trying, learning, and listening with the result of hearing their words rather than shutting down in a total panic.
I feel that Enthusiasm is the language of intercultural communication in the ME (probably at any stage but) especially when actual language skills are lacking. In line with this there was a lot of personal effort made in the areas of body language, facial expressions, etc. That said, the most used and necessary phrases of the week were probably: Gameilla awi! (Very Good!), Hellwa giddan! (Very Nice!), Lezeez! (Delicious!), etc…I’m laughing to myself as I write this because even pulling up these phrases brings back so many outrageous stories! I don’t know if it’s just because of my familiarity with ME culture from my own family or what but it was so fun because all the social games we played were extreme versions of stuff I’ve experienced before and so it was familiar enough to make the awkwardness/strangeness of it all hilarious.
There are so many great stories and conversations I could recount but for now I’ll hone in on the Friday following our arrival. Being that it was the weekend we ended up going to a big family Hafla (party) to welcome the arrival of a newborn. In my experience Egyptians are so welcoming, amazingly hospitable, and as enthusiastic a people group as I have yet to meet. This occasion was no different and involved tons of food, lots of being pulled around to “Ohh!” and “Ahh!” over everything, and of course(!) belly dancing! It is the well-kept secret I never knew that EVERY Egyptian woman belly dances and where two or more are gathered there WILL be a dance party. As guests taba’an(of course) we must dance for them :o) Can I just say, absolutely Hilarious! It is like their Olympic sport and they LOVE to have us join in. I really cannot even express in words what it’s like, maybe one day in person we can go over this more, inshaAllah…. :o)
The other love of young girls is make-up (mind you both these things are within the home. The higab comes off and the personality explodes :o). Anyway, one night the neighbor did both of our make up and…wow. Tara ended up with bright red eye-shadow, sparkling pink lips, etc. we were both trying so hard to hold back our hysterics. Then came my turn and to go with my black skirt they started with silver eye-shadow and black liner leaving me to think “hmmm, I think I lucked out here!” Then came the pink blush, and the brightest SPARKLING Purple lip stuff you can imagine! With an Oscar deserving performance of holding it together I took the mirror and exclaimed “Hellwa AWI!” (VERY Nice!!!)
Anyway, this has probably become boring ramblings but suffice it to say that along with these more humorous anecdotes there were some really thought provoking moments as well as self/cultural reflection that I will not soon lose sight of.
How I wish I could better articulate all this! I wish I was sitting before you and able to look you in the eyes and communicate the beauty and intricacy of the lives I had the privilege to intersect with this past week in particular. I love when one begins to understand some of the cultural themes that drive the development of who we become. It’s absolutely fascinating to me.
I will carry on visiting the family, and engaging in the lives I have come to love….
~Salaam